Love is a BattleField: How to Win the War

October 30, 2009, 8:41 am

The problem with modern day romance is not the internet, immature men or prudish women. It’s not facebook, craigslists (you know what section I’m talking about), eharmony or jdate. It’s not gay marriage, straight divorce, Michael Jackson or the Bachelor.

The problem is that new relationships are a lot of fun and old ones can be boring. When a relationship is new, there is nothing we won’t do for it. We leap tall buildings in a single bound, we go without sleep, we spend money and time in order to show the other person how much we care, and how deeply the river of love flows in our heart. (cheesy I know)

As time wears on, our passion begins to fizzle, and the river of love starts to dry up. We’re left feeling exasperated and wondering how we got to this place with this person that once made up our whole world. It’s my humble opinion that lose the feelings because we stop the effort.

We stay passionate about the things we give the most effort.

Lasting love, is a matter of choice and effort.

Choosing to do things for our significant other, and making the effort to continue to do the things which sparked the relationship in the first place.

Staying in love is a lot like staying in shape. We may not always want to go to the gym, but we go because we know if we don’t our bodies will deteriorate. In the same way, we sometimes have to do things for our relationship that will keep it in shape.

Everyone knows it’s harder to get back in shape than it is to stay in shape.

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If You’re Unhappy and Unfulfilled

October 15, 2009, 7:24 am

If you’re unhappy and unfulfilled, there’s a good chance your pursuits are primarily self-serving. When we serve only ourselves, our joy, our love, our success goes no further than the mirror.

No matter how great the triumph, if your life is unshared, then it’s ultimately a shallow victory and its benefit dies with you.

There are two types of unhappy and unfulfilled people:

Those who have accomplished great things in their professional lives, but did so at the cost of friends, family and fulfillment. Friends and family who were there before success was attained now want nothing to do with them and everyone they meet once successful they are suspect of because they feel that new friends are friends with their success not their person.

The other type of unhappy and unfulfilled are those that blame “the lack of.” Lack of love, money and status. They will cite all the ways they’ve been wronged, whats not gone their way, or happened like it was supposed to. They turn inward, instead of utilizing their experience to move forward, or sharing their experience to save others from the same pitfalls.

Making a positive impact for humanity starts with a smile and ends when we care about the well being of others as much as we do about ourselves.

Start with a smile, make friends dinner, walk a dog, help someone with their bags, help a friend move…you will find your joy again.

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The Lousy Excuse.

October 5, 2009, 12:19 pm

The Lousy Excuse is: “I can’t because I suck at__________”

Whether sport, art, or activity, if good company is involved you should never fail to participate simply because your not a professional in that area. I believe people respect effort and willingness as much as natural or learned ability.

Good memories and self discovery often occur when we step outside of our comfort zones in order to spend quality time with our self and others.

Go paint a terrible painting, or sing a song off key…go drop a touchdown pass or flinch when the volleyball comes your way.

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